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Originally Posted by Chibi-Chan
No one said she can't make mistakes.
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Maybe they're not saying that outright, but comments online by people who say things like "I used to like her, but look at what she's become!" are basically saying that they hold that opinion. She hasn't "become" anything. She's just made mistakes in her personal life.
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Originally Posted by Chibi-Chan
But it just ain't cool to act like an attention seeking teenager, write plain stupid things on twitter like "I hate you..." with a pic of yourself so that your whole fandome is like "what's wrong Ayu are you ok?", then say NOTHING AT ALL
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I'm not gonna lie and say she doesn't sometimes vaguebook (or vague tweet) like an attention seeking teenager. To be fair, when she's in the USA, she's in LA. Having once lived there for five years myself & given that I still have many social ties to the area, I can say with some accuracy that that's... kind of the dominant culture there. Vague, attention-seeking comments are just kind of the norm among people in LA, especially those in any sort of entertainment business. Granted, Japanese people and most other fans globally aren't used to that kind of thing, but still... can you honestly expect Ayu's tweets to be THAT different from those of any other famous person (all, by definition, attention seekers)? ESPECIALLY since she's the type to be vague in her lyrics. I'd like to remind everyone here that we still have no true confirmation about who songs like "Memorial address" are about. We ONLY have conjecture, NOTHING from her mouth. Why is that okay and a vague tweet not okay? She tweets random musings, same as many writers & poets & musicians & even YouTubers do. Why can't we just enjoy tweets like "i hate you..." and discuss whether she means a former friend, herself, the haters as a general concept, etc? It's easier to assume, and by doing that, you put words into her mouth and you DO affect her relationships with other people around her. Can you imagine Ayu's husband coming across a bunch of rumors about divorce? They haven't been together long enough for him to be able to laugh it off easily, she probably has to reassure him that these comments aren't based in reality EVERY TIME THEY HAPPEN. That shouldn't be her responsibility, and if everyone was respectful of her privacy - leaving her alone to share what she wants to share and being satisfied with that - it wouldn't be.
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Originally Posted by Chibi-Chan
and post a few days later a pic with you and your husband with a text that says "Goodbye my love" so that everyone out there is still alarmed what in the world happened to you and is asking if your relationship is over.
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1) It's a picture of her
hugging her husband and smiling. Because I know whenever I break up with someone, I tweet a photo of us clearly happy and in love. That's a very effective way of conveying that message.
2) The photo was tweeted at the the beginning of the only long break from the TA tour that she had scheduled. Four-day breaks between dates weren't long enough for her to see her husband, this one was. Makes sense for her husband to decide "You take breaks from your tours to come see me... I feel so neglected by this! Let's get divorced."
3) She said #goodbyemylove #hellomylove. She ended the tweet with #hellomylove. Goodbye to one love, hello to another. But that #hellomylove doesn't fit people's narrative of "ayu's love life is tumultuous and dramatic!" so they just ignore it I guess.
How did people see that tweet as meaning ANYTHING except "Goodbye to one love, my fans on my TA tour, but hello to my other love, my husband"? Honest to god it's like NO ONE used their brain or looked at context at all. They saw the ONE detail they wanted to see and it confirmed the ONE story they wanted it to tell. That's THEIR fault, NOT Ayu's, and I will NEVER fault her for that tweet. Not in a million years. I'll admit other times she messed up - marrying Mannie after only knowing him for 3 months was very very much a mistake, and I'm not gonna excuse stuff like that. That was a major life decision that she was very reckless with. But a tweet like the above? Nope, that's fine. She's totally allowed to do those imho.
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Originally Posted by Chibi-Chan
Then you're not just pissed about messages that are mean, no you're pissed about your whole fandom. You're pissed about all the people who like you so much that they care to follow you on twitter and write you messages if everythin's ok. Your fandome just thinks you may get a divorce because of the immature stuff you posted and wants to know wat's going on. But instead of appreciating that there are actually people out there who care about what you write and take it seriously, you blame them for it and call them out in public. Honestly, that's very low.
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To be fair we have no idea the extent of the criticism Ayu receives, nor how her mind perceives it. If you're a sensitive person, it's hard not to dwell on the criticism. It's no wonder Ayu loves performing so much because it's a whole huge room full of people who are cheering for you. There's not any criticism to magnify. But on something like twitter, if you see something negative in a sea of happy comments, the negative one just seems to stand out, like a big blinking red light in the middle of a pretty blue sky. And if she sees a ton of big blinking red lights day in & day out - don't forget, there's a whole bunch of negativity out there written in a language most of us don't speak fluently, and we have no idea how bad it might be - it may really get to her.
And if it does, then leaving twitter is the right thing for her. I don't know if it was something she decided to do on her own or if her staff insisted on it... but if the latter is the case, it's because someone behind the scenes was worried about the effect it was having on her to see it.
Then there's the fact that... Okay. When you're totally 100% okay, but someone asks you if you're okay, what's your reaction to that? Be honest.
For nearly EVERYONE I know, myself included, the HONEST answer to that question would NOT be a positive one. My sister has resting bitch face in a major way, so when she's happy but she's very focused on something and looks angry, it's really REALLY annoying for her when people ask if she's okay. When I'm fine but someone in my circle of friends says I seem sad, but really I'm just quiet, I get upset because it seems like they don't really know me at all. I know others who feel similarly... One surefire way to get someone angry is to tell a them to calm down or ask what their problem is when there's no problem.
Asking someone if they're okay can often seem patronizing, or as though it's out of pity rather than genuine concern.
And then there's the general attitude towards Ayu's love life in the years since 2007. Look at the way people have talked about Ayu's relationships since Tomoya Nagase... With Nagase the rumors were all pregnancy, marriage, moving in together, etc. But with everyone since then it's been divorce, emotional abuse, criticism, etc. And this was even before Ayu & Manny got divorced, too. It's almost like the tabloids and her fans alike went from wanting her to be happy to wanting her to be unhappy overnight.
Admittedly, she probably reads too much into people asking if she's okay as a result of that shift. But can THIS fandom really criticize Ayu for reading too much into things? Especially when these comments are attacks on her personally - Ayu tweeting about her life or her relationships is not an attack on us. Ayu stopping tweeting is NOT an attack on us, either, it's a defensive maneuver. A turtle isn't attacking when it hides in its shell. If a turtle hides, it would serve us all best to wonder if maybe we poked it with a stick one too many times.