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Originally Posted by Andrenekoi
^Yeap, I don't look bad on Ayu for enjoying attention... I would look down on her if she seemed like a bad person or a mediocre artist. But for being an attention whore? Nah.
But I also don't think there's anything wrong with someone becoming a whore, if that's their choice.
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I'm with you there! I ain't gonna judge, your choice is your choice. It may not be for me, but I'm not gonna stand in your way if that's what you wanna do.
As for the specific terminology being used for whatever... I think the way you ACTUALLY treat someone matters far more than what word you use to describe them, especially since words change meaning over time. No one says "sinister" to mean left-handed anymore because left-handedness is no longer widely associated with evil or darkness; the use of "lame" to mean "unable to walk" (as opposed to "not interesting") hasn't been common for decades, and while it is still used in that context, it does give your words a very outdated or old-timey tone.
Long story short, the actual word itself matters less and less the more it's used in a different way. The more we use the word "whore" to mean "someone who'll do just about anything for a certain commodity or benefit" the less it'll be associated with objectifying women, or ANYTHING specific to women really.
Chibi-chan, to address your specific concern, there's certainly a difference between a boisterous, talkative, strong-willed woman and an attention whore though... That's why terms like "social butterfly" and "life of the party" exist, after all. An attention whore is an ENTIRELY different concept - it's referring specifically to someone whose entire self-worth is based on how many eyes are on them at any given moment. They will do really out-of-character things if it means they'll get attention.
And.... Ayu has her moments where she qualifies. For the record, if I were a friend of hers I WOULD say it to her face if I were calling her on crappy attention-whore behavior that I felt was detrimental to her. I've called friends on attention-whore behavior in the past, and yes I was still friends with them afterwards (even if we did have that usual, expected post-argument tension at first). But most of the time, when Ayu is doing things for positive, playful attention, the same kind of stuff anyone posts on social media or shares with their friends when they're talking about their day, that's not attention whoring. That's just self-representation, having a one-sided conversation perhaps, but it's nothing crazy.
Would I say "attention whore" in a playful way as hyperbole to describe someone, whether to a friend of mine or to them personally? Yes, absolutely. My social circle still remembers what hyperbole IS (which is something that this generation seems to be losing *eyeroll*) and we use it often with the understanding that hyperbole is exactly what it is. But of course if the person in question asked me to stop saying that about them, I'd stop. If something bothers you personally, I'll be nice about it and stop doing it around you or in regards to you. I'm not gonna be all like "well, freedom of speech, I can say what i want!" about it like an obnoxious d-bag. But you DO have to bring it up, because I'm not (and many others like me aren't) accustomed to the level of eggshell-walking so many people demand nowadays (which, yes, I do find excessive at times).