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Originally Posted by oaristos
How rude is that. You're basically judging her current and previous relationships based on the fact that she is still struggling to communicate fluently in a foreign language. I'm Brazilian and I use English on a daily basis in an academic setting but I still have problems communicating with my American husband at home even though I've been here for a year. I believe that people almost have different "personalities" in each language they speak, and it's really hard to express yourself properly and "translate" your true self in different idioms. I think your comment was reductive and it bothered me a lot.
Also, I didn't read the rest of your gigantic post because I got like:
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Amen to this, I can also confirm that my english is FAR from fluent although I've been using (writing, hearing, not really speaking out loud, then I would just struggle even MORE) it in every day basis for years. I still keep forgetting basic words and grammar and I still need to look up how things are being said in english, and ESPECIALLY from Japanese to English there's even a
bigger difference than from Swedish to English for instance. It is generally just plain rude judging someone's English skills when they're non-native speakers. Like just.
