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I'm offended by this thread. I'm offended the user asked which name Ayu would give her child in the future when she has one, because they assumed that's what women usually want: having children.
It's not my job not to be offended by sexism, it's the job of others to not be sexist.
Everywhere in this world women are expectet to want having children, regardless of what they want. You know what happens when you say, as a woman, you don't want children? People ask you if you had a bad childhood, they say you don't want now but for sure in the future, they call you selfish and egoist, they say this way you never will be happy. Every damn fucking time the topic comes up, I have to defend myself why I don't want children. Not that I would have ever asked any woman why she wants children - simply because it's none of my business.
If you don't get why expecting of a woman to have children, even if it's just inderectly, is sexist and offensive, then make a little research and search for statements of women who regret having children. I asure you it's heartbreaking and maybe afterwards you will be able to understand how much pressure there is on women.
There is so much pressure on us who simply don't want children and some just have them because they never were given the chance to think about an alternative way of life without children.
It is highly offensive to sugest women always want to have children. It would be totally different if Ayu would have told us she's pregnant and there was a thread about names for the child. But she did not. And only because women are able to get pregnant doesn't mean one should reduce them to that and bring it up whenever possible.
Talk about names you like for your children as much as you want, but like I already said, don't talk about other women, because that way you're contributing to the pressure that lies on us.
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