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Originally Posted by Yannetakizawa
you are taking it so personally .
but it was not my intention at any time.
I am also a woman, I know things are difficult , but you are exaggerating much because of some words
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You were being sexist, it's simple as that. I never said you wanted to offend anyone, but intention doesn't matter when you're being offensive in the end.
Words matter, a lot. Otherwise I could call you an asshole and tell you not to be offended becaue it were just some words and not a slap in the face.
It's not like I'm angry or that I would think you're a bad person. No one here thought that. We were pointing out that what you said was sexist and some of us tried to explain to you why. That's all.
I would have wished that you would have thought about what we said, made an apology, told us you didn't thought about it like that until now but that you get were we're coming from and that you won't do it again.
I mean, I'm sure you just made this thread because you like children and want some. That's perfectly fine. But that's no reason to talk about another woman and her potential children when you don't know if she wants some or not. The decision to have or not to have children is a very personal one and in a world were women are expected to have children it's sexist to do exactly that.
You indirectly stated that you would like Ayu to have children. Try to imagine how offensive it would have been if I would have stated indirectly that I don't want Ayu to have children. Statemens like that are offensive and we shouldn't expect another woman to have/not have children because when it comes to this decision it's alone the decision of the woman and not the business of anyone else.