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Thanks for the reply. To be honest, I have the feeling Ayu regrets a lot of how she dealt with Mannie and Maro, which is why we have seen as little Tyson as we have during their marriage. I think it was the first time she could really be independent with talking about her relationships and have the autonomy to involve them in her career the way she did, and wasn't thinking as critically as she would have to if they had been, as an example, a Japanese celebrity like Tomoya. In regards to Mannie being in the music videos before they were a couple - I personally believe they became a couple during the planning and recording of them, as they married very soon after their release. I think she could have edited or rerecorded them if she had wanted to keep him out of her career given their changed relationship, but it was her decision not to.
The reason I'm neutral is because I am aware of how much she could have shared, and that is why I moved the distinction to it's over-sharing for Ayu. She was always very 'private is private' back in the day and so I think it alienated a lot of her older fans about how she changed her stance on that. It's the old adage of not meeting your heroes and some people had an image of her that was different from reality. It's what celebrities build their fandoms off, and although I have enjoyed this new era of Ayu's image in its own ways, it's not like I can't understand where people are coming from either.
I think it's unfair to accuse people of not having personal relationship experience if they disagree with Ayu's career choices in regards to including her partners. It makes the discussion a bit too personal, so I felt encouraged to balance it out a bit with some context - even if I don't agree with this point of view entirely.
As for your last point, I think we underestimate exactly how much Ayu is in control of what goes on her social media. Tyson and her have been very private despite her being as active as ever, and if she hadn't included Maro on album covers or Mannie in music videos (both with himself and with a photo) then I don't think there would have been so much gossip. She made the decision to do that and there's pros and cons to that, like with any decision that changes an artist's image.
As a tl;dr for the long post, I think generally a better phrase to use than over-share would be that people would like more coherence in her meshing of professional and personal life. The fact her two messiest relationships were those that factored in her career at the time has just led some to have a very negative view on Ayu continuing to include her partners. The failed relationships led to a lot of negative media, and due to them being highlighted in her work, the media was all over it. I think a lot of fans secretly (or not so secretly) wish for Ayu to have a more positive image in Japan and are worried this sort of thing works against that. People generally take Ayu a lot less seriously these days and it's mostly due to the LOVE again - Love Songs era and the string of quick marriages.
Ultimately it's none of our damn business lol, but we're a forum so pretty much everything gets discussed to the last detail. Things affecting her popularity in Japan are generally up for a lot of dissecting even if it's about something we don't know much about.
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