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Originally Posted by Andrenekoi
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To be completely honest, I originally posted that Ayu in that dress reminds me of one of those moms that dresses up for everything, as though it hasn't registered that she's not 22 anymore. I'm paraphrasing, but I think everyone is honestly talking like they recognize a difference between comments like "XX looks like a f#&÷ beached whale in that dress" and "XX looks like a mom trying hard look young". There's brash delivery and then there's drawing a hypothetical comparison to something. I don't think any of you actually understand the nuance as much as you keep claiming you do. Your actions say the complete opposite every time someone posts something you don't like. I'd be the only person agreeing with me if other people weren't clearly seeing you guys further blur the line between something you think is an insult and something you think is an opinion.
And we've been all over this andrenekoi, but the plain fact remains that you're entitled to call someone's opinion annoying, you're just not entitled to start or contribute to an entire discussion being turned into post after post criticizing someone. That's bullying. And you guys seriously need to learn that these things aren't justifiable because you believe you're doing it for a good reason. It still makes you a bully, and at the very least an enabler. Using my example from before, would you do this to someone sitting at a table with you in public? Would you really find it appropriate to start a roundtable discussion about how much one person at the table should just leave? I doubt you would even not try to speak up for the person being talked to like that.
Again, it's totally cool to pop back with "opinions like yours are annoying because XYZ." But you guys take this rapidly to some major extremes that don't even make sense. You assume all I ever post are criticisms? I've got hundreds of posts on AHS. You need to read every single one of them before you assert lies in order to defend your poor behavior. I wouldn't even estimate 5% of my total posts are criticisms. This behavior and the grasping at straws to explain it are annoying. I wouldn't be surprised if you guys started digging up word usage from the Middle Ages to defend yourself. You guys make vague black-or-white claims about someone you disagree with in order to leverage others' volatility to help push someone out of a space you want to control by your idea of our collective interests without listening to us to make sure you're not just projecting your interests as everyone's interests.
I want you guys to be here and feel like we all want you to be here. But really, make that meaningful. You're sharing a space with A LOT of different people and personalities. The way you see things isn't the right way; it's not even a bronze medal winner. It's just how you do you. Respect others doing themselves. Tons of people find you just as annoying as you find other people, both online and throughout your life. All you can control is how you process and choose to respond, as well as how to respond to it.
You don't get to define what Ayu is to me. You don't get to wrap my years of being here in your oversimplification of what you think I contribute based on the handful of times I've posted since January 1. You weren't sitting in that room with me when MIJ was released and I had to face the reality that years of thinking she'd find at least part of her spark again were spent in vain. And to be honest, it's pretty damn disrespectful for anyone to show up on this forum and speak for Ayu's impact on someone else. It's not your place, no matter how much your experience might conflict with theirs where they overlap in Ayu's timeline.