[Chibi-Chan]

I actually don't know why Andrenekoi blocked me and it's not that I would care. But I don't think it's fair of him to get all personal (again) so I think I deserve to say something even though it's off topic.
Like I said, I don't know why he blocked me, I only know that he tried to tell me I'm a bad feminist a few times and apparently he still isn't over it. If you would ask if I think of myself as a feminist, the answer would be yes, but I can't remember when I was like "look at me I'm a feminist". Simply because this isn't about getting brownie points but about taking a stand for what I think is right and if others see me as a feminist or not isn't something I care about. Speaking up for what I think is right should be enough to make clear where I stand.
But the reason why Andrenekoi is so hung up since years now (really years! I'm not joking) about whether I'm a feminist or not is that his idea of feminism (and that of most others here at ahs and what is popular on the internet) is not based on actual feminist thought, philosophical or political theory, but on one-liners on twitter and posts on tumblr.
I understand that it is popular in pop feminism to see women like Ayu or Madonna or whomever as "feminists" "showing the middle finger to patriarchy", because it doesn't require any systematic analysis of social structures and power dynamics. If you would apply feminist analysis to the "Max dating teenaged Ayu" situation, you would come to the same conclusion as me. There is nothing "rule breaking" about an adult man dating a young girl, on the contrary, it's the same patriarchal bullshit we see since the beginning of time. There are still a lot of places where men control women by marrying them of as young as possible and therefore robbing them of every opportunity to transition into adulthood by themselves and to become their own person. Age of consent laws are just a way to still grant adult man access to young girls. Legislation around sexual violence and what is concidered as such are usually still based on old legislation that was not suppossed to protect women and children from male violence, but to protect male property. One of the biggest risk factors for girls to end up in poverty and abusive relationships is entering relationships with adult men, because they often drop out of school and also don't work to support themselves ,since their partner promises to care for them. This makes girls very vulnerable.
When women are doing the same thing men do to women (like if Ayu dates Pei), this isn't feminism either. Feminism and therefore the women's liberation movement was called like this because women were (are) fighting for liberation from patriarchy for all women, not to have a seat at the table.
What Andrenekoi and others advocate for therefore isn't feminism, but neo liberalism. They are taking a stand for "everyone can do as they like and if a woman is successful with what she does, she is being a feminist". But in feminism it doesn't matter if Ayu as an individual woman is rich and feels "empowered" by what she does. In feminism it matters if women in general can live a life free of violence and with enough economic freedom to support themselves and not be dependent on men.
I understand that it is popular to be seen as "progressive", "woke" and "feminist". But this ain't feminism. And frankly I don't think everyone needs to be one. If you disagree with my analysis and with feminist political theory, that's fine with me. If you want to take a neo liberal, post modern approach, that's your right. But at least be honest about what you stand for.
This is probably what bothers me most about Andrenekoi and him bringing me up again, that he is intellectually dishonest and lazy in his analysis but has the nerve to go around here at ahs for years now spending his time to discredit me in order to play "who's a better feminist".