[emi♡]

Personally, I think it depends on the relationship with the person.

For example, it's completely irrelevant to me whether Hide once identified as something other than female (in whatever way), because we aren't close.

If I was to seek out a relationship with that person, it would be different. What we've gone through in life makes up who we are. It doesn't have to define us, people choose to be what they want, because they choose how to handle themselves and their emotions.

But I think it's as relevant as mentioning a past job or something. Sometimes it means a lot, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it has changed the person, sometimes it hasn't.

But to not be truthful about your life and who you are and who you have been...I think that's more the point of telling, rather than it actually being important what you once were.

Personally, whenever I'm involved in this discussion, most people say that it only matters who the person is now.


I've been involved in other discussions where, we were asked about roles, and would we care if our partners had had a different role in the past. Most people again, said no, it depends on what the person is now. For a few of us, yes, it bothers us.

It's our right to that.

But I think it's important to remember that, even if we don't want something in our lives, that doesn't mean it's wrong, and it doesn't give us the right to put others down, or treat them as anything other than human.

It also doesn't mean that maybe we shouldn't try to give them the most respect possible. To me, respecting someone's identity is pretty important.