Songs/lyrics that helped you after a breakup?

[love in music]

Have any of you had any ayu songs help you a lot during a breakup? Ones you would just play a lot after your heart was broken?

In the past I didn't like "Over" much, but right now it's helping me a lot.

[primavera♥]

Aw, I'm assuming that you're going through one now. I hope you're okay and you have my best wishes.

I like:

SCAR
Far away
No way to say
Liar
(Miss)understood
You were...
Return Road

[chocopockymaster]

You were... was my crack when I went through a horrendous breakup just after the single came out. I love that song but it's hard for me to listen to it anymore without all the feelings associated with the guy coming flooding back.

I hope things get better soon.

[love in music]

Originally Posted by primavera♥

Aw, I'm assuming that you're going through one now. I hope you're okay and you have my best wishes.

I like:

SCAR
Far away
No way to say
Liar
(Miss)understood
You were...
Return Road

I love all those songs. I'm probably going to add them all to a playlist. Yeah, it's difficult at the moment. I'm sure I'll be okay eventually. Thank you <3

Originally Posted by chocopockymaster

You were... was my crack when I went through a horrendous breakup just after the single came out. I love that song but it's hard for me to listen to it anymore without all the feelings associated with the guy coming flooding back.

I hope things get better soon.

Sorry to hear you went through such a bad breakup. You were... has always been one of my favorites.

Thanks <3

[November4]

Why do you guys play SAD songs when you're heartbroken? My playlist:

Avril Lavigne:
I Can Do Better
The Best Damn Thing
Everything Back But You
I Don't Have To Try
Alone

There you go.

Ayu doesn't have good post-breakup songs. Startin', Microphone and Is this Love? are OK for it, though.

[primavera♥]

Sometimes it's just good to experience all of the sadness. And have music that you can relate to. Like, it makes of seem like someone understands. Let's you think things through and eventually move on.

But everyone has their own way. I hope just hope love in music will be fine in the end

[Jennie Mae]

My song was M for a lonnnggg time

[Delirium-Zer0]

Originally Posted by primavera♥

Sometimes it's just good to experience all of the sadness. And have music that you can relate to. Like, it makes of seem like someone understands. Let's you think things through and eventually move on.

But everyone has their own way. I hope just hope love in music will be fine in the end

This is pretty much how I go about it. Ayu's songs all sound like they're written from my point of view, nearly every single one of them. I listen to her because it sounds like she understands, not because she's a friend coaching me into forced, phony happiness.

Fact is, whenever my emotions are running high for any reason, I wanna hear someone saying how I feel. I don't wanna hear someone being obnoxiously happy or overconfident or trying to convince themselves "Psh yeah I had a traumatic thing happen and I feel like crap but I AM AWESOME AND HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY." I don't buy it, so I don't like hearing it.

(don't) Leave me alone is my post-breakup anthem. Cuz that's how I feel. I want my friends to just back off and stop smothering me, but at the same time I need to know they'll be there for me when I need to vent or need support or if I'm just breaking down crying and need a hug.

And as a supplement to that, Wishing has a bit of melancholy to it, especially the Acoustic Orchestra version... as though she's telling Natsuki "You've always been there for me when things were hard, so I wish for you to be happy with the guy you love.... even if that means you have less time for poor, single me." If I've had a bad breakup and my friends aren't immediately around to eat ice cream & watch romcoms with, this song helps me learn to be happy for them until they're available to come over.

Ayu has a ton of songs about a very, very specific rejection situation that mimic one particular rejection in my own life. So whenever I get upset those songs help me through it because I know Ayu seems to have gone through the same thing... LOVE~refrain~, monochrome, WHATEVER, still alone. A few others. The cycle of being rejected, holding on to hope that he'll come around, accepting it, but still wondering what could have been... It's hard for me to move on from this guy so these songs help me feel better.

M is an amazing general breakup song though... the fight between pessimism & optimism in it really resonates with me. You feel hopeful that you'll find your ultimate love one day, but afraid that it'll end eventually and you won't be able to cope with the pain. That song feels like a hug from someone who understands.

[terra]

I know some say playing a sad song during breakup is not a good idea, but I thought it helped me when I was in one, besides it depends on the circumstances of the break up imo.

^Yeah ikr! the way Ayu write her songs make it easy to relate and put it in your own shoes.

My playlist:
SCAR
M
still alone
HANABI
Because of You
No way to say
Liar
HOPE or PAIN
It was
Together When...
You were...
Return Road
Bye bye darling
snowy kiss
Merry-go-round

[November4]

Originally Posted by Delirium-Zer0

This is pretty much how I go about it. Ayu's songs all sound like they're written from my point of view, nearly every single one of them. I listen to her because it sounds like she understands, not because she's a friend coaching me into forced, phony happiness.

Fact is, whenever my emotions are running high for any reason, I wanna hear someone saying how I feel. I don't wanna hear someone being obnoxiously happy or overconfident or trying to convince themselves "Psh yeah I had a traumatic thing happen and I feel like crap but I AM AWESOME AND HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY." I don't buy it, so I don't like hearing it.

Wallowing in your own grief isn't pretty. When you get older you understand that and you get a better perspective on things. But if playing sad "oh woe is me!" songs helps you, good for you.

As for "fake happy songs", there's nothing wrong with faking thoughts. In fact, if you fake a thought long enough it becomes that way. If you tell yourself you're hot you'll start acting and believing it, you don't need the world to reassure you. You just need to realize you're subconsciously choosing to think the way you do and slowly change it. We're all just feeling what chemicals are being released in our brains. Like forcing a smile stimulates the release of dopamine. And nice snide remark there at how Avril's songs are "fake". You know Ayu is an actress as well 90% of the time -- it's a part of the music industry, her music just happens to resonate with you more.



Also, the songs I mentioned are aggressive, not "happy". I wouldn't be able to listen to HAPPY HAPPY songs when feeling down either (like EnergizE and HONEY), they just get annoying. But aggressive songs are awesome for me, instead of laying on the couch listening to "still alone", crying and blaming myself for everything wrong in my life.

edit: As I'm typing this Tell All is playing and that's an awesome song for when you're feeling down.

Actually there's one Ayu song that's very deep and realistic. The lyrics are about how we will always break up, move on and find a new love. It's a melancholic song. I forgot which one...

Edit 2: This is one of my favorite songs when feeling down:

Let Us Move On - Dido

It's 100% accurate. Also:

Blackbird - Dido

Now I'm thinking that I'm remembering that "one deep and realistic Ayu song" wrong and it's actually just Let Us Move On by Dido, lol.

[Delirium-Zer0]

"When you get older?" ...How old do you think I am? XD

I certainly don't wallow though. I feel, let the feeling pass, and move on from it. Some people need a distraction from pain in order to move on; others need self-affirmation; others need acknowledgment that reality sucks sometimes from someone who relates. I need the latter. Clearly you don't, and that's okay.

[November4]

^

I'm not sure but I recently realized I'm older than most people who post on forums. /sad lol Plus when I was a teenager I used to play sad songs and feel the feels as well. Now I just put things in perspective and move on (basically what that Dido song I posted is about). I think I've become a narcissistic realist lmao.

For me sad Ayu songs serve the exact opposite: when I'm emotionless and want to feel sad I play some. Same goes for movies and series. Being stoic about real life all the time can be boring. xD

[pepper]

GAME!

best song after break-up.

"I had made this game a little longer than usual
No problem, I'll be able to find another one"

[November4]

Originally Posted by pepper

GAME!

best song after break-up.

"I had made this game a little longer than usual
No problem, I'll be able to find another one"

That song's translation is so bloody confusing. Is it even about a break-up? I thought it was about a couple fighting all the time lol.